Was at my aunt's place the other day visiting for Eid.As always when there are family get togethers like this, invariably the topic swings in the direction of upcoming weddings and matchmakings waiting to be made since most of my cousins are all in their twenties now.
So anyways I found out that one of my guy cousins in India would be getting married soon.This is a guy who depends on his Dad's wealth to keep him going ; though he thinks and calls himself a devout muslim, I know at one time he's tried almost everything under the sun....(well, people change for the better so I have to keep my mouth shut here!)and he thinks he's ready to have a wife and a family.
As simple as that!And his parents have found him a girl whom they think would be suitable for him......actually they found a couple through various means and he got to pick whom he wanted!
I just find it mighty amazing that somebody like him is going to be settling down soon.....to what I wonder!!If I were in his shoes, I'd worry about standing on my own two feet first and then worry about making my spouse miserable.But some of my family members think in fact this is a blessing in disguise for him as this would make him more responsible and would mend his ways.HOW???!!!!It's not logical!
The funniest thing though was that most of the objections were from us, the girls while my other male cousins mostly just kept defending him somehow...now I don't know if it's a male solidarity thing but come on....you gotta put yourself in the girls' shoes too.I mean what kind of life would she have living with someone like that?(Though it's a different story that her family and the girl herself know what they'd be getting into!!)
Moral of the story is.....people marry for the wrong reasons these days....pressure be it social/family and ideologies have gone for a toss.It is true in a way that our parents had it a lot easier when things and relationships weren't so complicated.When marriage, having a family, buying properties, educating the young ones and retiring to a good life with the wife was the norm and not divorce,infidelity,job insecurities,worrying about having how many kids,saving enough for the retirement home etc.....